Carol Enman 

 

carol@whengrowthmatters.com     

and

carol@balance-is-everything.com 

 

 

In my thirties, I was standing in my fifteen by fifteen, open concept living space, starring at my rocker that sat by the front window.  I had a vision, a thought, that when I was retired I would write all about what I'd learned in life, sharing my life's insights.  I'd no idea then, how much I would learn and what I was really asking of myself!  Life is complex, highly faceted, with incredible challenegs along the way.    

I started my career as a licensed social worker, spending over fifteen years working with children and their families. I won recognition and respect for promoting new methodologies, and innovative thinking.  I worked with hundreds of children and their families and loved what I did.  It was hard work, as you see abuse, disruption, resistance and pain, having limited tools to meet these challenges.  I saw physical, emotional and sexual abuse, inflicted by family members, relatives, mother's boyfriends, and even teachers!!  I've been in dangerous places, where the police warned me to be careful.  I saw teenage prostitution, had my life threatened multiple times, slept with a butcher knife next to my bed, like that would stop someone who targeted me.  I felt like I was doing something truly worthwhile, but I was single, making $18,000 a year, and was barely able to keep a roof over my head.  Not to ignore that you're in a constant state of emotional flux, from angry, to frustrated, sad, fighting to truly be helpful.  Near the end of my years as a social worker, I was asked to get a very high-profile case out of the national media.  I didn't want anything to do with it, but was told, it wasn't a request.  I agreed, as-long-as they would let me fully manage the situation.  I took a day off, and that's when the director of (un)professional service butted in, doing something I knew would blow the situation wide open again, and it did.  I actually quit when I got back to work and heard what she'd done.  I said that I'd get it out of the media again but would leave the company after this.  I did exactly this.  Promising myself that I'd continue to support friends, family, loved ones, as well as the businesses I'd work with going forward.  And I would return to the caring profession when I retired.  I retired last May and got my coaching certification in order to help individuals and businesses address their personal needs. 

After leaving social services, I chose to enter the business world.  I started working in a mall, selling jewelry, which paid better than social work did, sad but true.  I moved on to selling advertising for a local Business to Business (B2B) magazine; then to a B2B newspaper; to national magazine in a technology sector; to becoming the founding publisher or general manager of a new newspaper in the safety and security industry, making it into a multi-million dollar annual recurring revenue stream, the most respected and profitable publication in the market space, allowing the owner to buy out his annoying partner. 

I moved to become the Director of Business Development, in the U.S. for an international service provider, who was spinning off from its 8 billion dollar Swedish, parent company, into a publicly traded company on their Stock Exchange.  I worked on the international marketing committee, and assorted international projects, developing all the marketing and sales materials in the U.S, including all the many, market sectors the organization served.  This sounds more glamorous then it was... The hours were long, the travel was intense, the internal competition was vicious, or more appropriately said, absolutely rediculous.  How do you expect to grow an organization when there's infighting within your staff, departments, management and executive management!  This company was sold after a few years, for the dollar amount that it spun off at.  I moved to working with another Swedish company, the largest security camera manufacturer in the world, serving the education and healthcare markets in the U.S.  I was recruited to return to publishing just before the economy crashed in '08.  They werre hit very hard, lossing close to 50% of their revenue in about a year, shuttering publications, letting go of staff, hiring a new CEO, and putting the business up for sale, making it a miserable place to work.  I started a consulting company in February, before leaving this company that June.    

I landed a consulting job, with a software developer, who had taken a hiatus from his company, only to return to find the manager who'd been left in charge, had let the company fall into disrepair.  I joined him to help rebuild his baby, as he was borrowing money monthly from his bank to make payroll.  Six years later when I left, there were new software products, multiple new divisions, new sales channels, a solid recurring revenue stream that gave him a cash cushion, and I was closing new contracts, as high as 5 million in a whack, according to him.  I was their only sales person, the public face of the company, managing all their sales throughout the world.  I left, in complete frustration, before I planned to retire, as the owner was so self-absorbed.  He, like other owners and operators that I've worked with, didn't value what I gave them, as all they would see was "their" money.  Not attributing it to who brought it to them or how.  Why would I or anyone continue to do this for him or any other company, if they don't  appreciate or reward "me" or you or their key employees!   

Being perfectly honest, I found being a woman and especially a caring, giving woman in the business world, had it's complications.  It's still a man's world, although women have made in-roads into the power structure and hopefully this gets easier and easier for younger woman going forward.  As we need a healthy balance between the givers and takers, regardless of their sex, their perceived roles, or desire for power.  My heartfelt take away in these days and times, are that many of today's owner and operators want power and control, above respect for the people who bring them their results.  

I've always been a very generous, kind and giving woman.  This is something that makes me happy, gives me personal pleasure, and there's a life time of documentation that substantiates this behavior going all the way back to kindergarten.  I love to help and support people with their needs, goals, dreams, understanding themselves, effectively managing their lives and addressing life's lessons.  I can't help it, nor do I want to.  I want to do more and more and more of it.  I'm simply wired this way. 

I've experienced, managed and manifested so much in my life time.  Even attending Boston University's PhD program, as a doctoral students' thesis project for the learning challenged.  Mom took me a couple times, from the rural suburbs, to show me the way, and then I was on my own from there.  I've overcome multiple heartbreaks, serious traumas, losses, defeats, sexual harassment, and wonderful joys, deep laughter, and more throughout my entire life.  I've been tough, never gave up, learned how to care for myself all alone, and have done and seen more things in my life time then average bear.  All of which have been great life lessons for me.    

It would be my pleasure to assist you with your life's goals, understanding why you think as you do, answering questions from my voluminous experiences, my multitudes of reading, studying, webinars, or to just to discuss your thoughts, dreams, or how to be more heartfelt, centered, balanced, in this crazy world we live in.